If you really want to reach your full potential,如果你真的想发挥你的全部潜力。
you want to reach that grand vision that you have for your future.你想要实现你为自己未来设定的宏伟愿景。
You have to be willing to get rid of people in你必须愿意摆脱那些
your life who don't belong there,你生活中那些不属于那里的人。
who are limiting you,那些限制你的人。
who are dragging you down.那些拖你后腿的人。
Because especially in the early stages, your main task is to grow and to develop and learn.因为尤其是在早期阶段，你的主要任务是成长、发展和学习。
And in order to really, really do that,为了真正地做到这一点。
On a level that is efficient enough to lay a solid foundation for在一个足够高效的层面上，为……打下坚实的基础
your future, you have to be isolated in a sense.你的未来，你在某种意义上必须被隔离。
You have to be isolated because in order to really你必须被隔离，因为为了真正
understand who you are, where you stand in relation to where you want to be as a person, You have了解你是谁，你相对于你想成为的人所处的位置，你必须
to spend some time alone.花一些时间独处。
You have to be in a state of focus.你必须处于专注的状态。
Because what we need to do因为我们需要做的是
in order to make that growth possible is identify where we stand, what our weaknesses为了实现这种增长，首先要确定我们所处的位置、我们的弱点
are, where can we improve, what are our strengths, what maybe opportunities do we currently have我们在哪些方面可以改进，我们的优势是什么，我们目前可能有哪些机会
to take some steps closer采取一些更接近的步骤
in the direction that we want to go.朝着我们想要去的方向。
And I have a lot of experience with this firsthand as well.而且我在这方面也有很多第一手的经验。
You know, you have friends who just你知道，你有一些朋友只是
You know, maybe you're not even,你知道，也许你甚至不。
they're not bad people or nothing that don't talk bad about you, but他们不是坏人，也不会说你的坏话。
not on the same journey, if you know what I mean.不在同一段旅程上，如果你明白我的意思。
Some people stay in the small town.有些人留在了小镇上。
Some people are fine with doing the regular nine to five有些人满足于做常规的朝九晚五的工作。
bar on the weekends.周末去酒吧。
And I mean, that's a lot of people actually, especially where I'm from.我的意思是，实际上有很多人，尤其是在我家乡。
I live in New Jersey and that's that's pretty popular culture我住在新泽西，那是相当流行的文化。
here in New Jersey.在新泽西这里。
You know, do the nine to five work your你知道，做朝九晚五的工作，你的
laborers job, which again, there's nothing wrong with that. These are the kinds of people who make体力劳动者的工作，再说一次，这没什么不对。这些人就是那种让
the world go around at the end of the day.世界运转，归根结底。
It's just two different lifestyles, you know.这只是两种不同的生活方式，你知道的。
And the lifestyle that I wanted to live was not like that. And it never was.我想要的生活方式并不是那样的。而且从来都不是。
Even as a kid, I always wanted to be an entrepreneur.即使还是个孩子的时候，我就一直想成为一名企业家。
I wanted to work for myself.我想为自己工作。
I wanted to create something, build something on my own.我想创造一些东西，靠自己的力量建造一些东西。
That would have a large and positive impact on the world.那将会对世界产生巨大而积极的影响。
And I'm blessed to be able to say that we are doing that now.我很幸运能够说我们现在正在这样做。
But in order to get to this point, I had to distance myself from friends and even family.但为了达到这一点，我不得不与朋友甚至家人保持距离。
how hard that this can be because a lot of these people, most of the time, they're close to you.这有多难，因为这些人中的很多，大多数时候，他们与你很亲近。
And we even sometimes fall into the bad habit of maybe我们甚至有时会陷入坏习惯，也许
sugar coating it in our own head so that we在我们自己的脑海里粉饰它，这样我们
don't have to face the inevitable truth that we have to distance ourselves from these people.不必面对那个不可避免的事实：我们必须与这些人保持距离。
But you have to understand what's at stake here.但你必须明白这里的关键所在。
your legacy, your dreams, everything that makes you excited to live and你的遗产、你的梦想、一切让你对生活感到兴奋的东西，以及
forward to your future.期待你的未来。
Your future wife or husband and kids count on this.你未来的妻子或丈夫以及孩子都指望着这个。
And if you're willing to sacrifice all of that,如果你愿意牺牲所有这一切。
simply for wanting to be nice or to仅仅因为想要友善或者为了
keep that sense of comfort around.保持那种舒适感。
I think that when you put it into that context, it's pretty hard to justify我认为当你把它放在那个背景下，就很难证明其合理性。
keeping these people in your life.让这些人留在你的生活中。
No matter how hard it hurts to let them go.无论放手有多痛苦。
But I do want to tell you that you have a lot to look forward to.但我确实想告诉你，你有很多值得期待的事情。
I'm sure you have people in mind already that you're like, yeah, I've been thinking about it.我确信你心里已经有一些人了，你会想，是的，我一直在考虑这件事。
These people or this person is limiting. They do.这些人或这个人是有局限性的。他们确实如此。
I find that when I hang out with them or when I spend time with them,我发现，当我和他们一起出去玩或和他们待在一起时。
I feel myself get distracted我发现自己变得分心。
and I start to veer off my path or the type of conversations we have.我开始偏离我的道路或我们谈话的类型。
I come out of feeling like, maybe I'm not as capable, or maybe I'm too ambitious, or我结束谈话后感觉，也许我不那么有能力，或者我太有野心了，或者
a different route.一条不同的路线。
Once you make the decision to一旦你做出决定去
distance yourself from them, you have a lot to look forward to.与他们保持距离，你有很多值得期待的事情。
Because again, what this will do for you is it will allow you to be in an isolated state.因为再说一次，这对你的作用是让你处于一种孤立的状态。
And a lot of people, when they think isolated, they think lonely.很多人想到孤立时，就会想到孤独。
And I'm not going to lie to you.我不会对你撒谎。
I get lonely sometimes.我有时会感到孤独。
It's part of the process.这是过程的一部分。
I'm not saying that you won't be lonely or as soon as you distance yourself from them, everything will我不是说你不会感到孤独，或者一旦你与他们保持距离，一切就会
just magically turn out great.就神奇地变得很好。
There's still a lot of adversity to come your way.仍然会有很多逆境向你袭来。
There's still a lot of lessons that you need to learn,你还有很多需要学习的课程。
and you'll have ups and downs along the process, but在这个过程中你会有起起落落。
getting to that first step, getting into that isolated state,迈出第一步，进入那种孤立的状态。
will work wonders for you because that's where you really learn会对你产生奇效，因为那才是你真正学习的地方
who you are and what you really want out of this life and why you want it.你是谁，你真正想从生活中得到什么，以及你为什么想要它。
You'll be able to identify your weaknesses, you'll be able to develop and work on your strengths as well.你将能够识别自己的弱点，同时也能够发展并努力提升自己的优势。
And you'll find it to be, at least I find it to be a beautiful and almost poetic process.而且你会发现它——至少我觉得它是一个美丽且近乎诗意的过程。
You know, I can tell you firsthand, I'm a completely different person你知道吗，我可以亲身告诉你，我是一个完全不同的人
now that I was four or five years ago.与四五年前的我相比。
Before I started this journey, I在我开始这段旅程之前，我
was completely unmotivated.完全没有动力。
I was extremely unhealthy.我极其不健康。
I had no direction or sense of purpose.我没有方向或目标感。
I had no work ethic.我没有职业道德。
I went to sleep at like我大概在...睡觉
I would wake up at three or four in the afternoon我常常在下午三四点醒来
I ate once a day, as a我一天只吃一顿，作为一个
20-year-old grown adult20岁的成年
male, I weighed 105 pounds.男性，我体重105磅。
And I'll put a picture up on the screen to show you what I looked like at this time.我会在屏幕上放一张照片，让你看看我当时的样子。
And man, that was the lowest point in my life, seriously.天哪，那真的是我人生的最低谷，说真的。
And that was a result of both my parents passing away when I was in high school.那是我父母在我上高中时双双去世的结果。
They passed away to drug overdose.他们因药物过量而去世。
it was a result of a unstable and somewhat这是一个不稳定且有些...的结果。
I've experienced a lot in my short在我短暂的人生中，我经历了很多。
23 years of life on this earth and在这个地球上的23年人生中。
things that I don't even know if I can talk about, but I've一些我甚至不知道能否谈论的事情，但我已经
And that sent me into a really, really bad mindset.那让我陷入了一种非常非常糟糕的心态。
felt paralyzed in a way.在某种程度上感到瘫痪/动弹不得。
It felt like my whole world感觉我的整个世界
had come crashing down on me in 2020, especially when COVID hit and we were on lockdown.在2020年轰然倒塌在我身上，尤其是当新冠疫情来袭、我们被封锁的时候。
You couldn't go anywhere.你哪儿也去不了。
I couldn't do anything mentally, physically.我在精神上和身体上都什么都做不了。
But I am a firm believer that those who experience a drastic amount of whether但我坚信，那些经历了大量（无论）……的人
it be trauma or pressuring scenarios or you know how they say pressure makes diamonds是创伤还是压力情境，或者你知道他们怎么说——压力造就钻石
kind of what I'm trying to say and unfortunately有点像是我想说的，不幸的是
it's kind of like a sink or swim type of scenario a这有点像是一种要么沉要么游的情景
and I was around them because I have programs for kids who lose their parents before the age我当时在他们身边，因为我有为那些在某个年龄之前失去父母的孩子设立的项目
of 18 And I would go to these meetings18岁，我会去参加这些会议
and I'd look around the room and我会环顾房间四周。
these kids were just defeated.这些孩子完全被打败了。
It looked like life had like看起来生活好像
evil had had them in its palm and was just toying with them.邪恶曾把他们握在掌心，只是玩弄他们。
I could just see it in their eyes.我能在他们眼中看到这一点。
They felt defeated.他们感到挫败。
They felt helpless.他们感到无助。
I would like to imagine that every single one of those kids turned out better than they were.我愿意想象那些孩子每一个都变得比原来更好。
But the harsh reality is most stoned.但残酷的现实是，大多数人吸毒了。
Most of the kids who大多数孩子……
go through that end up addicted to drugs, and jail severely depressed, deal with severe anxiety,经历那些最终沉迷于毒品、严重抑郁、与严重焦虑作斗争，甚至进监狱。
or simply are not alive.或者干脆就不在人世了。
But those who survive that kind of life, that kind of past,但那些从那种生活、那种过去中幸存下来的人。
they have this sense of intelligence and knowledge and他们拥有这种智慧和知识，以及
And you can kind of tell without even talking to them.而且你甚至不用和他们交谈就能隐约感觉到。
Maybe you don't even know about their past, but you can kind of tell that they are wise.也许你甚至不了解他们的过去，但你能隐约感觉到他们很有智慧。
They have experienced a lot.他们经历了很多。
And the benefits that that does for you are immeasurable.而那给你带来的好处是不可估量的。
But it's a hefty price to pay.但这是要付出沉重代价的。
People used to tell me all the time to think realistically.人们过去总是告诉我要现实地思考。
I would tell them the dreams that I had had, the things that I wanted to do in this world.我会告诉他们我曾有过的梦想，以及我想在这个世界上做的事情。
And a lot of the responses I got were something along the lines of be realistic.而我得到的很多回应都是类似于‘现实一点’这样的话。
A lot of people don't understand what it's like to have a past, so heavy.很多人不理解拥有如此沉重的过去是什么感觉。
And maybe you didn't lose your parents.也许你没有失去你的父母。
Maybe you've been through something else.也许你经历过别的事情。
There's a lot of really unfortunate things and tragic things that happen in this world这个世界上有很多非常不幸和悲惨的事情发生。
far too much to name.多得数不胜数。
But I think most people have experienced something along the lines of但我认为大多数人都经历过类似的事情。
tragedy that really alters who真正改变一个人的悲剧。
they are and the course that their life takes.他们是谁，以及他们的人生轨迹。
But I remember people telling me a lot when I would tell them, my ambitious goals and everything但我记得，当我告诉他们我的远大目标和一切时，很多人经常对我说
realistically, bring it down.现实一点，降低目标。
We're not working with a lot here.我们这里条件有限。
And look at what has happened in your life.看看你生活中发生了什么。
Let's just survive.我们只要生存下去。
But I didn't want to just survive.但我不想仅仅只是生存。
take control of my life and show the world that regardless of your掌控我的生活，并向世界展示，无论你的
circumstances, you decide your fate at the end of the day.环境如何，最终你决定自己的命运。
If you put in an honest effort and you become, I didn't believe in God at the time.如果你付出真诚的努力，并且你变得……我当时并不相信上帝。
Now I do, thankfully, but if you have your heart in the right place and you become closer to God现在我相信了，谢天谢地，但如果你心怀善意，并且你与上帝更亲近，
and you put your best foot forward, I truly, truly believe that you can do并且你全力以赴，我真心实意地相信你可以做到
anything in this world you can这个世界上任何你能做到的事
fulfill the purpose that God created you to fulfill.完成上帝创造你时赋予你的使命。
The harsh reality is, if I thought realistically, I wouldn't be here today.残酷的现实是，如果我现实地思考，我今天就不会在这里。
I wouldn't be speaking to you through this screen.我就不会通过这个屏幕和你说话。
I wouldn't have inspired as many people as I have.我就不会激励到像我实际激励过的那么多人。
Through social media, I wouldn't be able to share my story.通过社交媒体，我就无法分享我的故事。
I wouldn't be in the mind space that I'm in now.我不会处于我现在这样的心态。
I wouldn't be as close to God as I am.我不会像现在这样接近上帝。
I wouldn't have done a lot of things that I've done in the past couple of years.我不会做过去几年里做过的很多事情。
Because like I said, most people who do go through something so traumatic.因为就像我说的，大多数确实经历过如此创伤事件的人。
and such a life-altering以及如此改变人生的
experience, they either end up经历，他们要么最终
in jail, addicted to drugs, severely在监狱里，对毒品上瘾，严重地
depressed, so depressed that you can't even function like a normal human being, or simply you're just not alive.抑郁，如此抑郁以至于你甚至无法像一个正常人一样运作，或者干脆你就不活着了。
So if I had to pick one phrase that I could just get rid of,所以如果我必须选择一个我可以摆脱的短语。
it would be think realistic or那会是“现实一点”或者
I don't want to get too far off the main topic of this video, but我不想偏离这个视频的主要话题太远。
I just wanted to add some context我只是想补充一些背景信息
as to what I was working with where I started the kind of关于我刚开始时的工作环境以及那种
environment I was in and the people,我所处的环境和人们。
what people were telling me back when I was at the lowest point in my life, very, very limiting.人们在我人生最低谷时告诉我的东西，非常非常局限。
And eventually I gained the courage to distance myself from these people.最终我鼓起勇气与这些人保持距离。
And here we are.现在我们就在这里。
Obviously, there's a lot more that goes into this journey显然，这段旅程涉及的东西要多得多。
and as much progression as I've had, but it really, and I mean this with everything in尽管我取得了很大的进步，但真的，我全心全意地这么说
me, it starts with对我来说，它始于
being isolated, isolating your mind, understanding very fundamental things about yourself, like被隔离，隔离你的思想，理解关于你自己的非常基本的事情，比如
what you truly want in this world.你在这个世界上真正想要什么。
why you want them, who you are again, like what are your weaknesses, where can you improve?你为什么想要它们，重新认识自己，比如你的弱点是什么，你可以在哪些方面改进？
What is separating the current version of yourself versus the version of yourself that是什么将现在的你与那个版本的你分开？
and laying out those steps and working on them one by one?并且列出这些步骤，然后逐一攻克它们？
It's really, really, really hard to do that when there's constant negative and limiting noise around you.当你周围持续存在消极和限制性的噪音时，真的非常非常难以做到这一点。
So please don't feel bad about it.所以请不要为此感到难过。
This will be the best decision that you've ever made.这将是你做过的最好的决定。
And just a word of advice.只是一句建议。
If you're thinking right now, I'm going to distance myself from that person.如果你现在在想，我要和那个人保持距离。
If there's someone close to you, I think that you probably shouldn't just ghost them.如果有一个和你亲近的人，我认为你可能不应该直接消失。
So just say to me, you know, whether I所以只要对我说，你知道，是否我
would do it in person because that's a communication skill that you会当面做，因为那是一种沟通技巧，你
should be working on. Communication is very important before I go on a long tangent on communication.应该正在处理。在我开始长篇大论地谈论沟通之前，沟通非常重要。
I would just say something like, you know, you know who I am.我只会说类似这样的话，你知道，你知道我是谁。
You know that I want to do this, this, and this in my future.你知道我未来想做这个、这个和这个。
And I've understood that it's going to take everything within me in order to get there.而且我明白，要达到那个目标，需要我付出一切。
So what I'm doing is I'm going to isolate myself to an extent所以我现在要做的是，在某种程度上把自己孤立起来。
because I need to be with myself right now.因为我现在需要和自己待在一起。
I need to spend a lot of time with myself我需要花很多时间和自己在一起
and in my own mind to really understand who I am, where I'm at in my并在自己的内心世界里真正理解我是谁，我处于什么阶段
journey, things I need to旅程中，我需要做的事情
work on, et cetera.努力改进，等等。
So if I'm not around as much or I don't reach out as much, don't take it personal.所以如果我不怎么出现或者不常联系你，别往心里去。
I'm just working on myself.我只是在专注于自我提升。
So there's no hard feelings or anything.所以没有什么不愉快或别的。
with myself right now because this is a very, this is very much a growth stage in my process.现在和自己待在一起，因为这是我成长过程中的一个非常关键的阶段。
Hope you understand.希望你能理解。
15 seconds and it's done.15秒就完成了。
And you will have done something extremely admirable because what most people will do is ghost them.而你会做一件非常值得钦佩的事，因为大多数人会做的是突然消失。
You'll ghost the person because你会突然消失。
You don't want to have to experience the discomfort of having that awkward conversation or that你不想经历那种尴尬对话或那种
tough conversation.艰难的对话。
But if you can manage to do that, you have a lot of great things coming your way.但如果你能做到这一点，很多美好的事情就会降临到你身上。
That is a extremely, extremely good sign.那是一个非常、非常好的迹象。
If you're willing to do that,如果你愿意这样做。
it shows bravery, it shows courage,它展现了勇敢，它展现了勇气。
it shows that you're willing to put它表明你愿意把
yourself in uncomfortable situations自己置于不舒服的境地
situations that you simply do not want to be in in order to get你根本不想身处其中的处境，为了得到
closer to your goals, become a better version of yourself.更接近你的目标，成为更好的自己。
So again, don't feel bad about it. And所以再次强调，不要为此感到难过。
honestly speaking, if these people are老实说，如果这些人
truly good people and they do really want to see you win, they'll be真正的好人，并且他们真的希望看到你成功，他们会
happy that you're doing this.为你这样做感到高兴。
That's a highly respectable thing.这是一件非常值得尊敬的事情。
I hope you got something out of this.我希望你从中学到了一些东西。
Thank you for your time.感谢您抽出时间。
And I will see you soon.我很快就会见到你。