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If you really want to reach your full potential,
you want to reach that grand vision that you have for your future.
You have to be willing to get rid of people in
your life who don't belong there,
who are limiting you,
who are dragging you down.
Because especially in the early stages, your main task is to grow and to develop and learn.
And in order to really, really do that,
On a level that is efficient enough to lay a solid foundation for
your future, you have to be isolated in a sense.
You have to be isolated because in order to really
understand who you are, where you stand in relation to where you want to be as a person, You have
to spend some time alone.
You have to be in a state of focus.
Because what we need to do
in order to make that growth possible is identify where we stand, what our weaknesses
are, where can we improve, what are our strengths, what maybe opportunities do we currently have
to take some steps closer
in the direction that we want to go.
And I have a lot of experience with this firsthand as well.
You know, you have friends who just
You know, maybe you're not even,
they're not bad people or nothing that don't talk bad about you, but
they're just
not on the same journey, if you know what I mean.
Some people stay in the small town.
Some people are fine with doing the regular nine to five
bar on the weekends.
And I mean, that's a lot of people actually, especially where I'm from.
I live in New Jersey and that's that's pretty popular culture
here in New Jersey.
You know, do the nine to five work your
laborers job, which again, there's nothing wrong with that. These are the kinds of people who make
the world go around at the end of the day.
It's just two different lifestyles, you know.
And the lifestyle that I wanted to live was not like that. And it never was.
Even as a kid, I always wanted to be an entrepreneur.
I wanted to work for myself.
I wanted to create something, build something on my own.
That would have a large and positive impact on the world.
And I'm blessed to be able to say that we are doing that now.
But in order to get to this point, I had to distance myself from friends and even family.
Now, I understand
how hard that this can be because a lot of these people, most of the time, they're close to you.
And we even sometimes fall into the bad habit of maybe
sugar coating it in our own head so that we
don't have to face the inevitable truth that we have to distance ourselves from these people.
But you have to understand what's at stake here.
What's at stake is
your legacy, your dreams, everything that makes you excited to live and
look
forward to your future.
Your future wife or husband and kids count on this.
And if you're willing to sacrifice all of that,
simply for wanting to be nice or to
keep that sense of comfort around.
I don't know.
I think that when you put it into that context, it's pretty hard to justify
keeping these people in your life.
No matter how hard it hurts to let them go.
But I do want to tell you that you have a lot to look forward to.
I'm sure you have people in mind already that you're like, yeah, I've been thinking about it.
These people or this person is limiting. They do.
I find that when I hang out with them or when I spend time with them,
I feel myself get distracted
and I start to veer off my path or the type of conversations we have.
I come out of feeling like, maybe I'm not as capable, or maybe I'm too ambitious, or
maybe I should go
a different route.
Once you make the decision to
distance yourself from them, you have a lot to look forward to.
Because again, what this will do for you is it will allow you to be in an isolated state.
And a lot of people, when they think isolated, they think lonely.
And I'm not going to lie to you.
I get lonely sometimes.
It's normal.
It's part of the process.
I'm not saying that you won't be lonely or as soon as you distance yourself from them, everything will
just magically turn out great.
There's still a lot of adversity to come your way.
There's still a lot of lessons that you need to learn,
and you'll have ups and downs along the process, but
getting to that first step, getting into that isolated state,
will work wonders for you because that's where you really learn
who you are and what you really want out of this life and why you want it.
You'll be able to identify your weaknesses, you'll be able to develop and work on your strengths as well.
And you'll find it to be, at least I find it to be a beautiful and almost poetic process.
You know, I can tell you firsthand, I'm a completely different person
now that I was four or five years ago.
Before I started this journey, I
was completely unmotivated.
I was extremely unhealthy.
I had no direction or sense of purpose.
I had no work ethic.
I went to sleep at like
five, six a.m.
I would wake up at three or four in the afternoon
I ate once a day, as a
20-year-old grown adult
male, I weighed 105 pounds.
And I'll put a picture up on the screen to show you what I looked like at this time.
And man, that was the lowest point in my life, seriously.
And that was a result of both my parents passing away when I was in high school.
They passed away to drug overdose.
it was a result of a unstable and somewhat
hectic childhood.
I've experienced a lot in my short
23 years of life on this earth and
things that I don't even know if I can talk about, but I've
seen a lot.
And that sent me into a really, really bad mindset.
felt paralyzed in a way.
It felt like my whole world
had come crashing down on me in 2020, especially when COVID hit and we were on lockdown.
You couldn't go anywhere.
I couldn't do anything mentally, physically.
I felt paralyzed.
But I am a firm believer that those who experience a drastic amount of whether
it be trauma or pressuring scenarios or you know how they say pressure makes diamonds
that's
kind of what I'm trying to say and unfortunately
it's kind of like a sink or swim type of scenario a
lot of kids
and I was around them because I have programs for kids who lose their parents before the age
of 18 And I would go to these meetings
and I'd look around the room and
these kids were just defeated.
It looked like life had like
evil had had them in its palm and was just toying with them.
I could just see it in their eyes.
They felt defeated.
They felt helpless.
I would like to imagine that every single one of those kids turned out better than they were.
But the harsh reality is most stoned.
Most of the kids who
go through that end up addicted to drugs, and jail severely depressed, deal with severe anxiety,
or simply are not alive.
But those who survive that kind of life, that kind of past,
they have this sense of intelligence and knowledge and
just a meaner.
And you can kind of tell without even talking to them.
Maybe you don't even know about their past, but you can kind of tell that they are wise.
They have experienced a lot.
And the benefits that that does for you are immeasurable.
But it's a hefty price to pay.
People used to tell me all the time to think realistically.
I would tell them the dreams that I had had, the things that I wanted to do in this world.
And a lot of the responses I got were something along the lines of be realistic.
A lot of people don't understand what it's like to have a past, so heavy.
And maybe you didn't lose your parents.
Maybe you've been through something else.
There's a lot of really unfortunate things and tragic things that happen in this world
far too much to name.
But I think most people have experienced something along the lines of
tragedy that really alters who
they are and the course that their life takes.
But I remember people telling me a lot when I would tell them, my ambitious goals and everything
to just think
realistically, bring it down.
We're not working with a lot here.
And look at what has happened in your life.
Let's just survive.
But I didn't want to just survive.
I wanted to really
take control of my life and show the world that regardless of your
circumstances, you decide your fate at the end of the day.
If you put in an honest effort and you become, I didn't believe in God at the time.
Now I do, thankfully, but if you have your heart in the right place and you become closer to God
and you put your best foot forward, I truly, truly believe that you can do
anything in this world you can
fulfill the purpose that God created you to fulfill.
The harsh reality is, if I thought realistically, I wouldn't be here today.
I wouldn't be speaking to you through this screen.
I wouldn't have inspired as many people as I have.
Through social media, I wouldn't be able to share my story.
I wouldn't be in the mind space that I'm in now.
I wouldn't be as close to God as I am.
I wouldn't have done a lot of things that I've done in the past couple of years.
Because like I said, most people who do go through something so traumatic.
and such a life-altering
experience, they either end up
in jail, addicted to drugs, severely
depressed, so depressed that you can't even function like a normal human being, or simply you're just not alive.
So if I had to pick one phrase that I could just get rid of,
it would be think realistic or
be realistic.
I don't want to get too far off the main topic of this video, but
I just wanted to add some context
as to what I was working with where I started the kind of
environment I was in and the people,
what people were telling me back when I was at the lowest point in my life, very, very limiting.
And eventually I gained the courage to distance myself from these people.
And here we are.
Obviously, there's a lot more that goes into this journey
and as much progression as I've had, but it really, and I mean this with everything in
me, it starts with
being isolated, isolating your mind, understanding very fundamental things about yourself, like
what you truly want in this world.
why you want them, who you are again, like what are your weaknesses, where can you improve?
What is separating the current version of yourself versus the version of yourself that
you want to become
and laying out those steps and working on them one by one?
It's really, really, really hard to do that when there's constant negative and limiting noise around you.
So please don't feel bad about it.
This will be the best decision that you've ever made.
And just a word of advice.
If you're thinking right now, I'm going to distance myself from that person.
If there's someone close to you, I think that you probably shouldn't just ghost them.
So just say to me, you know, whether I
would do it in person because that's a communication skill that you
should be working on. Communication is very important before I go on a long tangent on communication.
I would just say something like, you know, you know who I am.
You know that I want to do this, this, and this in my future.
And I've understood that it's going to take everything within me in order to get there.
So what I'm doing is I'm going to isolate myself to an extent
because I need to be with myself right now.
I need to spend a lot of time with myself
and in my own mind to really understand who I am, where I'm at in my
journey, things I need to
work on, et cetera.
So if I'm not around as much or I don't reach out as much, don't take it personal.
I'm just working on myself.
So there's no hard feelings or anything.
I just need to be
with myself right now because this is a very, this is very much a growth stage in my process.
Hope you understand.
And that's it.
15 seconds and it's done.
And you will have done something extremely admirable because what most people will do is ghost them.
You'll ghost the person because
You don't want to have to experience the discomfort of having that awkward conversation or that
tough conversation.
But if you can manage to do that, you have a lot of great things coming your way.
That is a extremely, extremely good sign.
If you're willing to do that,
it shows bravery, it shows courage,
it shows that you're willing to put
yourself in uncomfortable situations
situations that you simply do not want to be in in order to get
closer to your goals, become a better version of yourself.
So again, don't feel bad about it. And
honestly speaking, if these people are
truly good people and they do really want to see you win, they'll be
happy that you're doing this.
That's a highly respectable thing.
I hope you got something out of this.
Thank you for your time.
And I will see you soon.