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Learning to Say No and Prioritize Yourself
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Learn to say no and put yourself first.
Because right now we need to be focused.
We are on the path to embodying our full potential in my embodying spirit.
And in order to get there we must be mentally sharp and calculated.
We need to play this smart because there's not a lot of margin for error my friend.
And so when your friends actually go out and party and drink, say no.
When your boss or work asks for an extra favor, say no.
When it allows the opportunity follows in your lap and
it doesn't really align with what you need to be doing,
say no.
Learn to say no and do not feel bad because saying no is prioritizing you.
And that is what we need right now.
We need to be prioritizing us.
So here's your reminder.
I recorded that yesterday and I wanted to expand
on this topic because the more I thought about it, the more I realized that this
was a very transformational thing
in my own personal journey.
A lot of the things that I talk about in my videos
are based on personal experience.
I ask myself, What would be at the lowest point of my life need to hear
in order to like, you know, sometimes we need that thing.
There's just like this epiphany moment we have, and it sets us on a new path, a better path.
So when I make these videos,
I think what would I need to hear in that moment for that to happen?
Learning to say no, understanding the importance of being able to say no.
to other people to things that were not in alignment
with my path of personal development
of pursuing
my full capability in mind, body and spirit.
Learning to say no to that stuff and
say yes to me,
say yes to my priorities,
say yes to my
daily activities, the things that I was doing on a day to day basis,
like going to the gym,
like dedicating
time to my craft.
like reading, like meditating, like praying, very foundational things that help us become better people.
Saying yes to those things, that was
arguably one of one of the most transformational changes that I made
in my life.
So I want to take a little bit of time to flesh out the importance of this.
Every time that you say yes to things that are out of alignment
with your personal development of this path that you have chosen,
you're sacrificing time away
from you.
at the end of the day.
And really, if our purpose in life is to pursue our full capability in mind, body and spirit,
that
version of ourselves, that
fullest capability, the full embodiment of those things of our greatest version
of ourselves, that person is not this foreign thing.
It's not something that we're chasing outside of us, but it is rather a
more clear reflection of
the energy, the identity that we already possess within us.
So really our purpose in life is to get to know who we are as people,
understand what we are, so that we can do things that
align with us, truly align with us,
be it activities, habits, passions, people,
many things that come into our life.
It's important that we're able to discern what is for us and what is not for us.
Every time you say yes to things that are distractions that are noise that is
things that are pulling you away, pulling you out there,
you are sacrificing time that you could be spending doing that,
getting to know yourself.
You are sacrificing time that you could be spending
developing your skills, improving your weaknesses.
If you are someone who lacks in communication,
I get a lot of people that message me about how to improve
in their vocabulary.
what to do to become smarter, more knowledgeable, what to do to become more outgoing, more charismatic.
These are things that we need to be working on now.
My friend, this is a growth stage in your life.
And this is a crucial point, because this is the turning point, really.
I mean, this is the fork in the road.
Choose yourself.
Now, sometimes it's not just as easy as saying, no.
Sometimes there is a weight that we carry with us.
That makes it hard to make that decision.
When our emotions or we let the way we feel dictate
our decisions, yeah, it can be pretty difficult to say
now. Sometimes.
But a lot of the time,
when our reason for saying yes to things that we know we shouldn't
be doing, It's in an effort to please the other person or save the other person or
people.
From feeling bad, we don't want them to feel unwanted or not valued.
And look, that's a human thing.
As people, most people, if you're not psychotic, your natural instinct is to make other people feel good.
you want other people to feel cared for, to feel valued.
But at the core,
what is happening here is
we're allowing our emotions, our feelings to
dictate our life.
We're letting them take the lead
and most of the time that it's not a good idea.
Now, I'm not saying to become numb, you know, like emotions are good.
I'm not one to be like, be cold. No.
Emotions are very important.
And in fact, they're a vital tool when it comes to being able to make even harder decisions.
They are our compass.
And a lot of times they can tell us things that we don't consciously understand.
But in this case, in this stage of our lives, we need to be thinking primarily with logic.
We need to be going throughout our days
in a sort of pragmatic manner.
Because right now, our path looks like just one foot in front of the other.
We're not worried about this over here.
We're not worried about that over there.
We're not worried about what's going to come
in our near or distant future.
We're focused on our daily habits.
We're focused on improving 1% every single day.
And that is it.
One step in front of the other.
And yeah, it's not exactly the most enthralling experience all the time.
But it's what we need to do.
There's not a lot of room for error in this stage.
We need to be somewhat tunnel vision.
Of course, it's not good to be too tunnel vision, but we need to be
mentally sharp and just dialed in on us on our daily improvements.
It's also extremely important to create boundaries.
Boundaries will help you
Mentally or like visually, draw a line.
And when something crosses that line, it doesn't matter how we feel about it.
And honestly, when something crosses that boundary, you should be confident in your decision.